Let me make my mistakes and learn from it

Let me make my own series of mistakes to learn and grow through it… Life doesn’t come with a guide or manual so how can someone force you to believe what they say through their experience is right for me as well. We all have different ideas and prospective in life and just because I don’t agree with someone on a point doesn’t make me look stupid or rebel. Ofcourse I have my own thoughts that I have developed over years of my existence through my good and bad experiences that have shaped my personality the way it is today. It’s my choice to make to take or leave people’s suggestions based or their experience or make my own mistakes and learn from it, who knows if I don’t make a mistake instead find a better way out of it and teach these people this prospect that I have on it!
In today’s world no elder can impose their thoughts on their children or grandchildren but only suggest a way which they find better through their own past experiences. If you try to impose your thoughts on them surely you’ll drift yourself away from their heart as you seem to be controlling to them and surely nobody likes to be controlled against their will, isn’t it… Instead you can just share your experiences with them rather than making them believe and do what you want and maybe you giving them your experience will help them make better choices and love and respect you more dearly since they can see that you actually respect their thought as an individual and not always treat them as a kid when they are already grown up adults…
It’s a privilege to have a choice to make and learn from your mistakes and nobody can teach you better than your own personal experiences so never refrain to make a choice to choose a path and face whatever difficulties that may come your way because this process is what will take you long way and again practically speaking you can’t expect somebody to always be there to hold your hands and guide you throughout your life…

To put up with people that are insensitive…

There are times when you come across people who do not think before speaking in not a good way and you have no way to make them understand how rude and insensitive they can be to others and make them hear themselves when they speak.

It specifically becomes difficult if you have an emotional and sensitive approach to thinking and action to stand these kind of people around you and its inexplicable how difficult life becomes everyday if you happen to work and connect with these kind of people everyday as part of your job.

You start feeling exhausted in the morning thinking how to escape from these people and how to avoid getting hurt talking to them. On the other hand these kind of insensitive people have no clue how impossible they are to deal with and how ruthlessly they behave with others keeping a stand that they are straightforward.

Well everybody knows if a person is being straightforward or being rude just to showcase their power trying hard to mask their insecurities and inferiority complex. People who avoid talking or use ignorance as a medicine to deal with these people are knowingly or unknowingly feed their ego making them believe they have a right to be rude to supress other people and pave their way…

First thing to do if you have a misfortune to work with these kind of people only tolerate what you feel you can ignore but once it starts mentally affecting you stand up for yourself and speak up. Its not your weakness to be sensitive, rather its a virtue that makes you compassionate and makes you kind enough to empathize with people around you and indeed makes you a good person. Also its not that only people who are rude or insensitive are straightforward. Its a matter of person choice if you respect and be kind to everybody around you or not.

If things go beyond your control and it becomes intolerable to deal with such people just SPEAK UP…Since your silence would make your life difficult and also you would be forcing yourself into a toxic environment which might affect you physically and mentally as well. If you need to work with them everyday just make them realize how wrong they are thinking that you silence was because you were easy target to bully and it was testing your tolerance…You are responsible for your mental well-being so don’t let anybody invade and ruin your peace of mind because of their toxic and supressing attitude…

You need to be smart enough to not go down to their level to make them taste their own medicine but make them realize how wrongly they treat you with your goodness and kindness…

Don’t give people chance to make you live in a toxic environment amongst toxic people, you deserve better and you need to know that you really do.

Silence

Isn’t it ironical that if a person is close to you, their silence is loudest that they can speak to you. This is because silence is the language of your heart…

It speaks louder than anyone can hear without even a single word being uttered. If you feel a connection with a person you may actually understand many gestures of the person or rather you can infer the mood of that person without that person speaking it out to you in words. Well this isn’t a rocket science to understand, this connection or bonding comes from the trust, understanding and time that you’ve spent together which helped you understand that person so well that words no longer remains the only medium for you to communicate or understand what the other person is thinking or feeling… This heart to heart connection makes you understand each other better. Isn’t it amazing and worth appreciating that we people can share this kind of magical connection with each other…

Silence is sometimes like a cold winter night which makes you feel the cold and emptiness in your heart while sometimes it is what you need to be able to get your thoughts together and make a firm decision.

Saturday thoughts…

Certainty dwells in the uncertainty of one’s belief that every situation irrespective of whether good or bad and irrespective of whether you want it or not will also pass and things will eventually fall into place and make sense to you for good.

Ironically, you’ll always conveniently prefer to believe that life is uncertain rather believe in the fact that everything in life is meant to certainly happen when it’s meant to be.

Everyone have their own fate and destiny that will follow and it’s certain from the day you are born the only thing is that since you are part of it, it seems to be uncertain and you fail to see a bigger picture of what future might bring to you as reward of your patience.

Thursday thoughts

Everytime you feel low rather than making yourself miserable thinking about things that’s bothering you, try to train your mind and develop a mindset where your mind becomes stronger than your emotions that’s been affecting you and your decisions greatly.

Otherwise you’ll endup losing your mind and yourself bit by bit everytime you give in to your emotions to lead your decisions.

Then when you’ll look back you’ll see that you’ve lost yourself in all this emotional chaos going on in your mind.

Keep calm and never give up on yourself!! You are worth being held up on!

A ray of hope…

Have you ever faced a situation that I have mentioned below—-

There comes a phase in life when all you can think is negative. Every thought that you have is negative. Whatever your loved ones advice to you it kind of becomes words going to the deaf ears.

You some how magically get the ability to find faults or negativity all around you, surrounding you like the atmosphere and you top that making your life miserable yourself thinking about it constantly day in and day out.

Then you have a terrible urge to give up everything you’ve been working so hard for all these years and run away just few moment of peace and solitude… Is such peaceful moments worth you leaving back everything you’ve invested your heart and soul for achieving….

You kind of start losing faith and believe that things might get better than this and you will survive it. You tend to forget like every phase in life this will also not be permanent, it will pass, it always does, isn’t it?

In such phase if you are confronted with failure and rejection, it seems to be the end of the world, it seems to you that you are stuck in the middle of the problems having no way out of it. What you tend to forget is that you always have a way out, it’s just that since your vision is compromised with your negative thoughts, you can’t see across what good is awaiting for you…

There will be people around you who might have more difficult issues in life but you won’t appreciate you being in a better position than them in every aspect. Again magically you’ll end up concluding that your grievances and problems are the most difficult one’s and you’d convince yourself with it and believe it blindly.

You find everything stopping you from giving up things isn’t sign from the universe to hold on but it’s kind of bondage for you.

Then when you are on the verge of breakdown, you suddenly find a ray of hope when you never expected to see and restore your believe of something good happening in life after such a long waiting… what an inexplicable and amazing feeling is it that makes you so happy just by thinking of the possibilities that situations might change for better… You do cling to this hope no matter what and overcome your difficulties…

This is how the universe works isn’t it, it always indicate a way out when you are not capable to tolerate any more and change your life for good, teaching you how to be assertive and dwell positive thoughts in your mind again after you’ve almost lost yourself…

This is when you realize and appreciate how worthy it was for you to hang on, tolerate and move on convincing yourself everyday that this testing phase of life will pass with a constant urge of giving up ( since its the easiest and the most worthless thing you could do to yourself)!

Well this is what exactly happened today, it seems…

Companion…

Have you ever wondered why you always try to find someone who would to be with you in good times and in bad as a companion or a partner….if you stop finding such person and just think for a while you’ll realize while finding people to share your joys and sorrows with, you simply ignored an amazing person who is already with you always in every circumstances, guiding you as a voice of your conscience whether somebody is there with you or not—-This person is you…You are always a perfect companion for yourself,there is only a need for you to realize this fact and the day you accept and appreciate this fact,you’ll never find yourself alone and lonely at any point in your life…

Need to Figure out…

In your twenties, how many times have you avoided people asking about your life goals so as to start a conversation and you’ve ended up saying- “Well I haven’t given a serious thought on it, I’m still figuring it out “.What a lame thing to say is this if you hear yourself saying this. You always know what you want from life, yes you do but it’s just that you are so worried and freaked out within about how to make it happen or how to get it is what makes you feel it’s better if you pretend that you are unaware of it. It’s so convenient to say that I need to figure out what I want in life, what kind of life I really want to make for myself rather than just accepting what you know you want and strive getting it for yourself before it’s a reason for regret for you in the future…If you think pretending to be in the figuring out phase will buy you time or make things simpler today, you are definitely mistaken my friend. Trust me if you are relating to the description I have given above, you do need to get your thoughts and mind sorted today and start working on your goal. Only wasting time figuring out things won’t help if you don’t push yourself to work hard give all that you have in you to achieve what you’ve planned to…Life is so short to just go with the flow to figure out and realize in the end that this pth does not lead to your destination, instead sometimes you just need to grab the control of your life and place it on the track where you want to proceed and make things happen. Motivate yourself every day you wake up, talk to yourself looking at the mirror. Appreciate yourself for every step you’ve taken towards your goals. Console yourself and back yourself when things doesn’t go as you’ve planned and start with a plan B coz there is no turning back to figure out phase again…

Sea shores and thoughts…(1)

They say time is the best teacher and healer. Surely they might be true but for me a sea or an ocean is a wonderful teacher! Wondering why…well let me explain it to you through this blog-

Whenever I go to the beach and walk along the seashore, my mind starts wandering and thinking about life and its situations differently. Ofcourse nothing changes but yes since I feel cool, relaxed and as I hear the melody of the tides touching the shore and feel wonderful, my thoughts take up a different direction than it always normally does.

So if you see technically, life seems to be like a seashore where just like the waves and tides situations come up and goes away every now and then… Even though tides carry the pebbles and shell all along its journey it has to deposit it into the shore before going back alone, same is the case in our lives, people come into our life, we love and care for them, create wonderful memories together but at the end it’s your journey, they can only accompany you for some part of your journey make it worth cherishing your entire life but still they aren’t there forever no matter how much you wish and pray for it. They come an become a part of your journey but they are just the part of it not the whole of it.

It’s always a choice that you make which makes your journey and your experiences worth this lifetime since every situation and people that come into your life becomes part and parcel of your life from time to time in this journey of life whether you like if or not!

A person who is strong doesn’t drift from the shore like the loose sand but stay back and fight all the situation that comes along…